" Hey Honey, What do you want for Mother's Day?" He asked me last night 6 whole days before the event.
Hmmm Good question. I can think of lots of things that I would like. I really want a new camera. I have never received jewelry from him (unless you count the earring that I bought MYSELF last Mothers Day, and I DON'T!!) I would love to get a Compound Miter Saw, or a great drill that I don't have to charge every couple hours. A garage door opener would be great. But since we don't possess any credit cards and the paycheck that will be received this week is already spent on car payments, insurance and food, well, let's just say that I am not holding my breath for any of the aforementioned items.
There are free things too, you say. A nap, a dinner not made by me, a foot rub. I am not holding my breath for these either. I already get to take the occasional nap, am not a big fan of ramen noodles, and he has arthritis in his hands so any massage leads to big sighs and big shows of hand flexing and moaning.
As I type this, I feel ungrateful for all my husband does for me and my family. And I not. He works about 130 hours every 2 weeks so that I can be a SAHM. He helps tidy the house on the weekends, he takes the kids outside to play for hours on end, and he does the bedtime routine every night that he is here. He has no objections to my attending numerous church related meetings in the evenings when he is tired.
So where am I going with this? Honestly, I am not sure. I think that I want what every woman wants for a Birthday, Anniversary, Christmas, or Mothers Day. I want to receive a gift that I really want without having to tell him exactly what to buy. (or telling my Mom what I want so she can tell him.) I want to know that he listens to me when I talk and knows me well enough that he can go buy something that I will really like. It doesn't have to be diamonds or a limo ride to the spa. I want him to think about it more than 6 days in advance so that if it requires saving a little money out of each check, then he can.
And since we have been married 12 years, I don't think that it is really too much to ask that he knows my likes and dislikes.
So What Do YOU Want for Mothers Day???